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Friday, November 2, 2007
Feeling upset
I used to have a lot of pride when I was younger. Not that I am older now, just that after some things happened, I started to take things more lightly. I started to be less calculative. I start to ask fewer questions. I start to be more accepting rather than argumentative. I began to develop the ‘can’t be bothered’ attitude. I start to say sorry more often.
Sometimes I admit I apologize not because I am in the wrong. But just because I dun wish to offend that friend further. Its always better to make friends than enemies right. But there are many times I feel sad, that my friends can be angry over small, petty things. Don’t you feel that when we are angry, we only look at the bad side of the person, somehow we forget about the good side.
Recently, I was quite upset over a friend.
I called him to apologise. He said ‘its not the first time that you did that’. ‘It’ was actually just a joke gone too far. Haiz.. and he can be pissed about this for a long time. I can make that friend smile and be happy for a few months, but he can be angry just because I made the same mistake twice. Some people forget the good times very fast, do they?
Somehow, we are always very quick to penalize others. Many people dun realize that when you point a finger at others, you are pointing 3 fingers at yourself. Perhaps we live in a culture where we complain more than we compliment.
Actually, come to think about it. What do we gain from being angry? NOTHING, no returns at all. But we lose energy, we are unhappy. Not only ourselves, but the other party as well. Sometimes, we lose friendships built over many years. Hmm..actually we do gain something. We gain misery, we increase the chances of heart attack (when we r angry, our heartbeat is faster). Is it worth it? And sometimes in a moment of foolishness, we say hurtful things that may affect people for the rest of their lives.
And it is very demoralizing for people who take things pretty hard. For people who treat their friends sincerely and get this in return.
Sometimes I wonder if it is a bad thing to be too nice to people. Maybe I should build a wall and be nice only to selected people. The next time u get angry or pissed, think about what I have written. Because, I am just one person who gets really affected each time a person I care about is upset with me.
Moral of this story is ‘its hard to please everyone, I guess’
posted @ 11:28 AM
someone who loves to eat tofu,